Let’s talk about sex
Posted by Jeff on February 19, 2009
As far as men go, I suppose I’m a little strange. I’m not the typical guy who’s going to jump into bed with whatever woman happens to be willing at the time. That’s not to say, however, that I never wasthat guy, but I’m not now. These days I take sex pretty seriously and am not particularly interested in one-night stands or meaningless encounters. Now, what I want to know is this: why is it that women can make a man jump through hoops for months before having sex with him and it’s ok, but when a man chooses to wait it’s horribly insulting?
Allow me to clarify here. Usually if I’m in a situation where coital business is on the table and I turn it down, it’s likely because I actually like the girl and want to be careful in regards to physical interaction. It’s not because I’m uninterested. In fact I would likely not be in that situation to begin with if I weren’t interested. There is also a component of what I know about myself and how I tend to react after the fact to sexual situations that happen too quickly, but that’s a different topic entirely. Yet every time I’ve been the one deciding that it would be a better idea to wait, it’s as if I’ve insulted someones mom or pissed on a communion wafer. Is it really so hard to believe that some men have enough depth of character to not immediately discard reason or consideration at the merest hint of blood flowing in their nether-regions? Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to present myself as some paragon of self-control. I am weak after all.
I’d like to get people’s opinion on this? Why is sex etiquette so one-sided? Why is it accepted knowledge that men have to earn sex whilst women are entitled to it? I personally don’t think anyone should feel like they are entitled to sex with anyone else. I’m sure that there is some psycho-sociological explanation that I’m not clever enough to notice, and no, ‘because men have all the power everywhere else’ is not good enough.